Recently I woke up in the middle of the night with one word on my mind. Intimacy.
As I sleeplessly thought on intimacy and the implications therein the big surprise was that I was completely unsure how to define it or even really think about it. Naturally our minds move into thinking about the combination of physical intimacy and emotional intimacy. My basic conclusion was that intimacy is sharing your secrets. Your special inside secrets that you only give out to people when you trust them. If someone is starved for intimacy they will give these out to everyone they meet, trying to gain connection. If they are afraid of intimacy or don’t know what to do with it they never let anyone know, they keep everything on the surface. The middle ground would be a person who evaluates wisely and will share those deep things with people they trust and are hoping for deep continued connection.
It is important to remember that all three of these people need intimacy…everyone needs close deep connections so they do not feel isolated and alone.